Originally published January 2, 2013
I like to make resolutions. There’s something about a transitional moment that makes us believe that the changes we want to make will actually stick. Maybe it’s forward momentum. Maybe it’s the fact that our friends and family are also are making changes. Maybe it’s just silly superstition. Whatever it is, I like it.
My 2010 New Year’s Resolutions seemed impossible: find myself again. I couldn’t even pinpoint what needed to change. I just knew that I was miserable, I was unhealthy and I was scared, and none of those feelings would ever make me the awesome mom that I wanted to be. With a little professional help, I began a journey of self-exploration, and the words “if nothing changes, nothing changes” were always in my head.
It began by severing relationships that were destructive to my self-worth. One by one, tough choices were made to remove the negative influences from my life. Nutritional eating and exercise became regularity as my unhealthy habits slowly disappeared. I joined a gym, did a Challenge and started to feel strong again. I even began training for a triathlon (which I had no idea at the time, but has now became one of my passions). Looking back, 2010 really sucked . . . very much. 2011 was tough and a transitional time, but it was also liberating. 2012 was amazing. I can honestly say that today there are very few things that I want to change in my life. I realize how fortunate I am to be able to say that.
This little walk down memory lane has me swelling with pride. I sometimes think, “I can’t believe I had the strength to do that”, but it worked. I found myself again. It took 2 years, patience, perseverance and some scary times, but mountains were moved. Nothing is impossible.
This year, I have several New Year’s Resolutions. They are driven by my goals to compete in a half iron distance triathlon, to continue the success of the gym and to keep my kids happy, healthy and safe. Thinking about those goals, my gut told me that these are things I need to do . . .
Don’t take myself too seriously
Have lots of fun
Try new things
Be nice to everyone
No Hydrogenated Oil and High Fructose Corn Syrup for me or my kids
I strongly believe that goals need to prescribe to the S.M.A.R.T. method (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely) in order to be effective. So, there will of course be some fine tuning, but now, just writing them down, verbalizing it and making it known has got me excited! I can feel this little fire beginning to burn in my stomach and when that happens: watch out world!
I hope you can feel that same excitement and enthusiasm for your resolutions. Or, maybe you think resolutions are silly. It truly doesn’t matter. We are all wired differently and driven by different methods. But, if you are a believer in resolutions, then don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Believe in your changes, be persistent, be patient. Make 2013 amazing.